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Healing Your Sense of Self

8/8/2020

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How to Love & Accept Myself

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You are not an accident. God created you on purpose and for a purpose. If you are struggling with accepting and loving yourself, please continue reading. 

God is not mad at you. He loves you and created you to be in relationship with him. God is concerned about what you are concerned about and wants to help in every area of your life. He wants to bring healing to your sense of self. 

Self-rejection is self-focus or self-absorption displayed by disapproving, despising, hating, disdaining, and/or spurning self; being engrossed with all my negatives (either real or imagined).

We know we are struggling with self-rejection when our lives are marked by:
  • poor self-esteem.
  • self-accusation, condemnation and/or false guilt.
  • feelings of inferiority and/or inadequacy.
  • fear, dread, anxiety and/or worry.
  • feeling like or believing “I am a failure.”
  • negativity and/or pessimism.
  • often feeling sad, grieved, sorrowful and/or depressed.
  • despair, hopelessness, helplessness.
  • self-abuse through abusive use of alcohol, drugs, food or tobacco or cutting, hitting or mutilating self.
  • suicidal thoughts, words and/or actions.​​
​On the other side of the coin — Pride is self-focus on all my positives and is displayed by conceit, haughtiness, arrogance, and or self-confidence; and/or usually looking to my own best interest and desires without considering those of others.

Surprisingly, pride is usually rooted in the fear of rejection.

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​We know we are struggling with pride when our lives are marked by:
  • egotism, haughtiness, arrogance.
  • feeling driven to achieve and/or perform.
  • competitive attitudes in most areas of life.
  • independence and/or self-reliance.
  • isolation and/or withdrawal.
  • self-righteousness and/or self-justification.
  • judgment and/or criticism of others.
  • self pity.
  • covetousness, envy, jealousy, and/or possessiveness.
  • manipulation.
  • perfectionism.
  • worship of self, narcissism.

Here's How to Get Over It

  1. Understand that God loves you
  2. Identify why you struggle to love and accept yourself
  3. Receive God's love instead of trying to perform
  4. Sign up to take this class for free

Pruning for Fruitfulness

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These classes help us understand areas in which we often struggle and have trouble, to which we can apply the principles learned in the previousclasses to gain healing and freedom. ​

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In this class you will learn the truth about why we were created and what we're doing here on earth. You will come to understand how shame, guilt and condemnation enter our lives and how to get out from under it. And you will receive instructional, step-by-step prayers to begin the healing process.

​It's free! What have you got to lose?? 
  1. Sign up
  2. Watch the video 
  3. Download the workbook
  4. Pray the prayers
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How Do We Get Offended in the First Place?

2/28/2020

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Types of Offense

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Events that include other people have the most opportunity to produce offense. The closer you are to another person, the more opportunity there is for friction. Friction has great potential to provoke offense.
​As ironic as it may seem, you can become most offended because of events that include people you trust, care about, and love or of whom you have high expectations—those with whom you have some kind of relationship. A teacher or a boss may be people whom you neither love nor trust. But, because they have authority over you, you do have high expectations of them.


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How Forgiveness Changes Your Relationships

11/29/2019

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The other day I spoke with a friend who works to stay current. What I mean by "stay current" is forgive quickly when issues arise or offense comes. It is easy to let things build up, but if you stay current you deal with it as it comes.  

She brought an issue up to her husband and normally this would result in yelling, heated emotions, the opposite of what she wanted: resolution and peace. However, this time, she had forgiven everything before going to speak to him and it went smoothly, better than expected. 

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Forgiveness in Practice

11/15/2019

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A study was conducted recently around cultural values and forgiveness. We found it especially interesting since the cornerstone of the Christian walk, and much of what our classes focus on, is forgiveness. 

The study asked people to identify their religious preferences and how much they valued forgiveness; the results are remarkable.

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Redeemed Expectations

9/20/2019

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The other day I was praying with my friend and I heard her say, Lord, remove my expectations of other people. It struck me as odd, but I didn’t know what to say at the time. Later on, the Lord spoke to me about redeemed expectations. 
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